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If you’ve read my previous post, My Travel Essentials, then you would have seen that I mentioned this book by Don George. I loved it so much that I bought one too many and instead of keeping it on my bookshelf to collect dust, I’d rather have someone benefit from it, so CALLING ALL ASPIRING TRAVEL WRITERS! One lucky winner will get this freebie; just answer this question:

Why would you like to be a travel writer?

I’m sat at the bus stop with my back arched, semi curled up to contain the tiniest body heat I am radiating, a snow flake drops on my thigh. Yes, it is winter and yes, I live in london and people know well that this country has an appalling weather stability ever.

I envy Australia right now. Scrolling down on Instagram to see what the people I follow are up to, I stumble upon my cousin’s pictures which all consists of sun, pool, tan, swim suits, smiles and everything cheerful. Ahh summer, why cant you just stick around all year round?

This is probably the most pointless blog post ever but it is getting me to start writing again. And I will right more pointless blog post until I can finally write properly.. after all, we all have to start somewhere right?

12 Lies To Stop Telling Yourself

Lying to others is wrong, but lying to
yourself is an absolute tragedy.

The worst lies are the ones we subconsciously tell ourselves.  They’ve been ingrained in our minds by bad external influences and negative thinking.  So the next time you decide to unclutter your life and clean up your space, start with your intellectual space by clearing out the old lies and negative self-talk you often recite to yourself.

Here are twelve such lies to stop telling yourself:

  1. I don’t have enough yet to be happy. – In every mistake and struggle there is a message.  Some people miss the message because they’re too busy berating themselves for the mistake, or fretting over the problem.  To be upset about what you don’t have is always a waste of what you do have.  The happiest of people aren’t the luckiest, and they usually don’t have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way.  The reason so many people give up is because they tend to look at what’s missing, and how far they still have to go, instead of what’s present, and how far they have come.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  2. My dreams are impossible. – Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions speak louder than your words.  Do something every day that your future self will thank you for.
  3. I am stuck with people who hurt me. – Life is too short.  Look out for yourself.  If someone continuously mistreats you, have enough respect for yourself to leave them.  It may hurt for a while, but it’ll be OK.  You’ll be OK.  Oftentimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.  We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth.
  4. My failed relationships were a waste of time. – There are certain people who aren’t meant to fit into your life.  But no relationship is ever awaste of time.  If it doesn’t bring you what you want, it teaches you what you DON’T want.  We rarely lose friends, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are.  Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will surely create one for you.  And remember, when you’re up, your ‘friends’ know who you are, when you’re down, you know who your ‘real friends’ are.  It just takes a little time to figure it all out.
  5. Things will never get better. – There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s part of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.  When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and cannot find your way out of the darkness, remember that this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings.  Just because today is a terrible day doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be the best day of your life.  You just got to get there.  Read Emotional Freedom.
  6. Failure is bad. – Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed.  No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.  Don’t get so hung up on one failed attempt that you miss the opening for many more.  All of your ideas that don’t work are simply stepping stones on your way to the one idea that does.  And remember, failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.  Always get back up!  Oftentimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
  7. Great things will come to me effortlessly. – We are who we choose to be.  Nobody’s going to come and save you, you’ve got to save yourself.  Nobody’s going to give you anything, you’ve got to go out and earn it.  Nobody knows what you want except for you.  And nobody will be as sorry as you if you don’t achieve it.  Never leave your key to happiness in someone else’s pocket, and don’t wait on someone else to build your dream life for you.  Be the architect and keeper of your own happiness.  The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.
  8. My past is 100% indicative of my future. – At some point, we’ve all made mistakes, been walked on, used and forgotten.  We’ve let people take advantage of us, and we’ve accepted way less than we deserve.  But we shouldn’t regret one moment of it, because in those moments we’ve learned a lot from our bad choices.  We’ve learned who we can trust and who we can’t.  We’ve learned the meaning of friendship.  We’ve learned how to tell when people are lying and when they’re sincere.  We’ve learned how to be ourselves, and appreciate the truly great people and things in our lives as they arrive.  And even though there are some things we can never recover and people who will never be sorry, we now know better for next time.
  9. I never need to meet anyone new. – It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made.  People and priorities change.  As some relationships fade others will grow.  Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work.  Trust your judgment.  Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory.  Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
  10. I can’t live without those who are gone. – If someone comes into your life and has a positive impact on you, but for some reason they can’t stay, don’t mourn for too long.  Be thankful that your paths crossed and that they somehow made you happy, even if it was just for a short while.  Life is change.  People really do come and go.  Some come back, some don’t, and that’s okay.  And just because one person leaves, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who’s still standing by your side.  Continue to appreciate what you have, and smile about the memories.
  11. I’m not ready because I’m not good enough yet. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.  Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress.  Start embracing it!  Because being a work in progress doesn’t mean you’re not good enough today; it means you want a better tomorrow, and you wish to love yourself completely, so you can live your life fully.  It means you’re determined to heal your heart, expand your mind and cultivate the gifts you know you’re meant to share.  You are ready.  You just need to start.  Read The Power of Now.
  12. I have way too much to lose. – In the end you will not regret the things you have done nearly as much as the things you have left undone.  Trust me, you’d rather look back at your life and say, “I can’t believe I did that!” instead of, “I wish I would have…”  It’s better to think “Oh well,” than “what if.”  It’s better to have a lifetime full of mistakes that you learned from, rather than a heart full of regrets and empty dreams.

It’s Monday and it’s the start of learning period yet again. I’ve almost forgotten what our campus is like with students all around it like you have nowhere to hide.

I sip coffee from my new Hello Kitty tumbler I got given a few days ago by a former friend. Former - that word isn’t very nice to hear. We fell out, due to things that changed that he couldn’t accept. Well, he wished me happiness but I could hear such strong bitterness from his voice that I just instantly dismissed it.

I don’t know whether to feel upset that I have lost a dear friend but after I realised what he has been doing to me the whole time, it felt like I never really knew him.

Do you ever wonder if you really know your friends? I never do but recently, I had to.

I’m standing here at the bus stop, just finished my coffee, recalling how fucked up i have been due to him. I never thought that I’d have such a manipulative friend to mould me into something he’s never had because of my gentleness.

For years, I thought there was something inside me that ruins me, maybe I really do, but I realised that majority of it was because of him. He’s had a failed love and he saw it in me that he leeched on it and sucked every bit of it. Of course I wasn’t aware, I believed that I had a lot of love to give.. Even though my family barely gave it to me.

I remember feeling drained after that argument, fed up, exhausted. Blind even, that I couldn’t see what harm I was doing to my loved one. Blamed him, criticised him, took all my anger out. Luckily, he supported me, opened my eyes and told me such friendship should not be in that way.

Right now, I don’t miss my so-called ‘friend’. Or rather, my ‘former’ friend. Not nice to hear but appropriate for all the damaged he’s done to me. It sucks to be manipulated by someone who’s close to you. But at the end of the day, it’s something you learn from.

My bus to university is here, I should really stop with all the thoughts that could only possibly ruin me again. Until next time.

45 Life Lessons, Written by a 90 Year Old

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for things that matter.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.  Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to be happy.  But it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose Life.

28. Forgive but don’t forget.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give Time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d
grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

A blog post for girls who think it’s just enough.

Tired of being ignored, disrespected and mistreated? I’ve been there. Though I am now in a relationship, I still want to share my previous experiences to all the girls out there who should know when it really is enough.

Respect yourself. If you don’t, then no one else would.

I think that girls should see the bigger picture. Having class is better than seeming desperate to everyone by trying hard to get all the attention. I do agree that girls who are always ‘out there’ gets all the attention almost all the time but trust me, that won’t last. Don’t act stupid to get a guy’s attention because seriously, it is very unattractive. Just be yourself, with class. Have a good attitude, a sense of confidence (but not to an extent of coming across as arrogant) and radiance that pervades your being from head to toe. 

Love yourself. Yes, we all have insecurities but don’t wallow yourself in self pity. Accept that nobody’s perfect and your flaws should be accepted and love just like how you would others. Don’t take sh*t. I’m not saying be a bitch or whatever but if people see that you can be nice but not to an extent of allowing yourself to be disrespected then they will see that you value yourself therefore they would do the same. And if they don’t, confront them.

When I say respect yourself, I meant it. Don’t be the kind of girl who gets passed around.

I personally know someone who has just lost self respect altogether. And the worst thing is, she doesn’t even realise this. I know you may be heartbroken, lonely and so on but trust me, having sex with as many guys as you like is not a good idea. There will be a time when you finally meet the right one and you’ll wish you waited, just like I did. But what happens in the past stays there. What you can do though is stop it now. Respect yourself, woman. Guys will see you as a toy and totally lose all their respect on you.

Do you really want to be used and then the next thing you know the guy you “like” is slowly drifting away from you and then start blocking you on every social networking site there is possible so you wouldn’t be able to contact them? Yeah, happened to me. My friends warned me but I wishfully thought that maybe I can change him and maybe stick with me instead of looking for the next girl he could possibly get with. It was stupid. If your guts tell you that it is not a good idea, that he is not the best guy for you then for goodness sake, listen. Move on! Some people may say that you’re over-thinking but most of the time your instincts are right. Works for me.

Marilyn Monroe says ‘Be Wise’.

“A wise girl kisses but doesn’t love, listens but doesn’t believe, and leaves before she is left.”

This quote has always stuck in my mind ever since I first read it. For me it means that just because a guy has shown you attention, a little bit of affection and such doesn’t mean you should already fall for it or rather him, straightaway. Hell woman, get to know the person first.

I recently got into a relationship and I am still getting to know my boyfriend. You see I kept wondering why I didn’t do this in my past relationships because I do think it is a really good idea to take things slow and get to know him before jumping into it. That way you will figure out if he’s the kind of person you’re looking for or not. And also, if you’ve decided that he really isn’t for you, it wouldn’t hurt both of you as much as it will when you’re already in too deep. 

So this guy you recently met and starting to get to know tells you a lot of things including serious ones. Should you just listen or believe as well? I suggest to be a lady and listen but don’t believe in everything that he says yet unless you are sure they are true. There are some guys who lie and lie and lie and lie times infinity to get in your pants. Again, happened to me. I know, I was stupid.

I don’t know how on earth he knew I loved Italy but he used that to get my attention. He said he was part Italian. I believed it and liked him more. And then he found out I love astrology and psychic stuff and then he said his mum’s got psychic ability (realising it now, it really was stupid of me to believe all that crap) and that apparently she said we will work out one day. F*ck that. Beware. I’m not saying that ALL guys are like this but let’s face it, there are some guys out there who would do anything just to get you in bed. Once again, beware. Listen first but don’t believe. Not yet.

So girl, don’t be attached yet if you know that he isn’t. It’s not bad to let him do all the work in the beginning because otherwise, how would you know he’s got his heart set on you? Take your time, your feelings matter more than being taken to bed.

So this is all I’m posting for now but do come back, I have more to post for you lovely girls (and boys maybe).. Post laters! xxx

Mistakes People Make When Searching for Authentic Happiness

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1.  Things

“All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within.” — Horace Friess

Things will not make you happy. This is true for everything. If you want that dream house, it may give you a boost of happiness, but it won’t last.

Even winning the lottery won’t last. Your happiness levels will return to their previous set point and you will be back trying to get more things.

The solution is to realize that things will not make you happy. Happiness in life comes from the inside, and it’s available right here, right now.

Stop looking for more things and start looking inside.

2.  Relationships

“If you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.” -Kristin Chenoweth

If you could just find your soul mate, you would be complete, right?

Not really.

Even if you find your soul mate, it may sooner or later turn sour, unless you’ve done the inner work.

You have to be willing to find happiness within. No partner can make you happy, and if you think they can, you will try to change them, which will lead to suffering.

There will always be something, even in the most perfect partner, that you don’t like, or that doesn’t live up to your expectations.

Learn to love yourself first.

3.  Striving

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”― Albert Camus

And that brings us to our next mistake, which is striving.

This could be striving for happiness, or for something to alleviate the apparent suffering in your life.

It’s something you hope will come and fix everything. And the reality is that it’s not going to happen, not if you’re looking for it.

The simple answer to finding happiness in your life is to stop looking for it. Stop trying so hard. Welcome what is.

And let life take care of itself.

Welcome even the feelings you’ve labeled as negative.

Welcome it all in, and let it be.

Let life be.

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I want to start writing about Psychology.

There are reasons why sometimes people are as lunatic as I am. Well I am pretty normal according to people around me but I don’t believe that. They don’t know what’s going through my head, how fucked up it is. Sounds weird right? But I like being honest. After all, this is an anonymous diary. 

There are two people you’ll meet in your life. One will run a finger down the index of who you are and jump straight to the parts of you that peak their interest. The other will take his or her time reading through every one of your chapters and maybe fold corners of you that inspired them most. You will meet these two people; it is a given. It is the third that you’ll never see coming. That one person who not only finishes your sentences, but keeps the book. 

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12 Things In Avoiding Relationships

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1. A relationship will not solve all your problems.

In fact, it will create new ones. An otherwise calm and content day can be turned on its head because your partner woke up on the wrong side of the bed. A relationship means giving up a lot of the control you have over your life and your moods. You now have a whole other set of obligations, opinions, routines, and feelings to somehow meld with yours. There’s always this tendency to think the grass is greener on the other side, but just because someone’s in a relationship does not mean they’re happy, and it does not mean their life is perfect. If you can’t be happy while single, you’ll have a hard time doing so in a relationship.

2. There is nothing original about this.

Anything your partner says or does to you, they have said or done to someone else, possibly as recently as this morning. That barista who wrote his or her phone number on your coffee cup has done so to a dozen other patrons. Those silky smooth lines have been perfected over time, have worked on countless occasions before. Anyone who appears out of nowhere with an express intention of wooing you is playing those same cards every night of the week. Often, they’ll even tell you about people they’re attracted to and flirt with people right in front of you. This is not some ironic display of affection or an attempt to play it cool, it is a blatant form of disrespect. You are special, don’t settle for someone who doesn’t know that.

3. Sex is not a sturdy foundation for a relationship.

Sex on the first date will not ruin something that was otherwise destined to succeed. But it can draw out something that had no business going anywhere in the first place. If you’re still getting to know someone and figuring out how you feel about them, sex can put added pressure on the relationship and provide incentive to keep seeing someone you otherwise aren’t too bothered about. If you sleep with someone every time you see them because you have nothing to talk about and fear that, by conversing, you’ll be forced to face the realization that you don’t actually like this person at all, and are simply infatuated with the idea of them (and their body), this is not a good relationship. When a relationship is built solely on the physical, sex becomes a shield that keeps you in limbo between establishing true feelings and realizing this is going nowhere.

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Would you say you’re f*cked up?

Aren’t we all? But we all have a choice - either let it ruin the fuck out of you or make you stronger; up to you.